But still. I live in a sparsely populated area and there's nothing left –– maybe ten new users in the area since they removed everyone in my local search. Der. No, I mean people that you have marked as LIKES. They left 2, and those don't live anywhere near me, aren't recent––it's absurd. Your Conversations page will show all of the conversations with people you've Liked. The mutual likes was the well I was going to draw from for future dates. © New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast, Press J to jump to the feed. As of yesterday at about 11pm, my like count sat at 28. I wish they'd just turn it into a pay site with all of the features left intact. If you Like the profile, then the introduction will move to your conversations page. Whenever I saw someone that I wanted to pursue I'd bookmark them first before liking them or messaging that way I could be sure I could find them. My number has dropped drastically. If they like you, they'll let you know by liking you back or replying to your message. Click to compose an introductory message and send! Categories. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. Fortunately, as I just reported a bug on the "Who I Like" tab, I had reason to download my Likes, so I have them all preserved, prior to the May 30th cutoff. Why OkCupid hides someone after you send an introductory message to them; How to send an introductory message to someone; Intros! And maybe you even feel a bit rejected, being reminded that they haven't written back to you yet. I have come to use the “Like” feature religiously on OkCupid because it helps establish if I'm a mutual match with someone before I send the initial message. So if you have a mutual like who has not logged in during the past three weeks, they won’t show. I sent an email and got this response: "Likes and how they are displayed are changing a bit, but they are still there! Can't be a block since we're still messaging. people are actively un-liking you. Now the ball is in their court!

it's too early for you to be here, go home. Now it's just gone. But they will once they log in! And here I was thinking they were unliking me immediately after I messaged them. She and I are still exchanging e-mails, but nowhere is there an indication that she liked me back. Oh, I don't think it's people who previously like clicking pass. This may explain what you are seeing: On the ‘You Like’ page, your mutual likes will be on the top. She's not showing up in my mutual likes, either, but the "it's a match" message is there, which never was there for the 1st person. My cache of 48 mutual likes was the last thing of value on OKC. When someone sends you an introduction (a first message), it will be added to your Intros tab. How to send an introductory message to someone. I just noticed that about 4 of my LIKES have disappeared in the past 2-3 days. How to write a great introduction; How to hide a conversation; Mailbox size; Toggle Search. Once you send an introductory message to someone, we won't show them to you again on OkCupid until they like you back. In the change to the Likes page, all my likes don't show under Who I Like, but when I go to the bookmarks, they're still liked. When that happens, you'll see the conversation show up in your "Conversations" page and we'll send you a notification. Yes, I lost 10. These are new changes, so please let us know your feedback.

If the other person hasn't liked you yet, you won't see their profile (or your sent message) until they like you back. My likes are disappearing if I message them. Gone.
It's happened to me. I feel like we'd get a lot of these questions answered preemptively. If you haven't saved yours, they may be gone for good. I liked someone recently and they were no where to be found in my likes. It really does help explain how fucking stupid OKC programmers are.

It used to be great. We know how frustrating it can be browsing through matches only to find out you've already reached out to most of the people you've seen. I liked someone recently and they were no where to be found in my likes.
However, with another person, I liked her, wrote her, and at the end of her reply is an automated OKC message of "it's a match!" New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast, Press J to jump to the feed. What a waste of time, right? There was a problem submitting your feedback. Not seeing mutual likes but you have a chat with them — This is not a bug! When I checked mutual likes, she showed up, but then after she wrote me, she disappeared from that list. Once you send an introductory message to someone, we won't show them to you again on OkCupid until they like you back. Once you've liked someone, you'll see a "message" button on their profile. Only people who have logged in during the past three weeks will be on the ‘You Like’ page. However, with another person, I liked her, wrote her, and at the end of her reply is an automated OKC message of "it's a match!" Glitch? yeah no it's just you. I hope this helps explain! If you still need help, you can  email a friendly human. I don't yet see any evidence that OKC's deletion has made my likees reappear in Browse ... maybe they will.

This is okc disabling every conceivable way to view and interact without paying the fee. Please note: You can only send one initial message, so make it a good one!

When that happens, you'll see the conversation show up in your "Conversations" page and we'll send you a notification. I have been liking people for several years now (as a pseudo-bookmark,) and looking back, there's nobody I've liked prior to 6 months or so ago. It makes no sense to show a profile, allow the user to LIKE the profile but then not show up in LIKES because said profile has not logged in during the past 3 wks. If you have a chat going on with someone, they are removed from the Likes list. Now the ball is in their court! Maybe it's because I changed my religion from atheist to agnostic, that's the only major change I made. edit: I misunderstood the question. Thanks! So now you need to bookmark them if you really think you want to follow up. So disappointing. There was someone I wanted to write, so I clicked on the Like button to unlock the message button (a necessity which actually seems to have since been removed). No more wasted time or frustration. Please try again later. I had about 46 disappear at once. you know what you did. Why did an intro/conversation disappear? When I checked mutual likes, she showed up, but then after she wrote me, she disappeared from that list. 2020.

Why did an intro/conversation disappear? Powered by Help Scout. So now you need to bookmark them if you really think you want to follow up. Now that's gone too. A lot of people were not seeing the multiple tabs here, so we thought consolidating them would help.

Today when i logged in, no longer under the A List product, my likes are at 81.

If they like you, they'll let you know by liking you back or replying to your message. OkCupid is a fucking scam and I'm done with this "service". I mean people that you have marked as LIKES. I have a couple of people bookmarked that I liked as well.

Or did the 1st person do something to unlike me? So the mutual likes tab has been consolidated into this page.